This is why you cant trust women, even when theyre mouth is closed theyre still lying to you
you do realize that this is really hurtful right?
i did not do this to show how i am ‘lying’ to men or anyone, it’s not about how you, as a man, should feel about it - it’s about myself.
to me your statement sounds as if the left side of this picture is something awful or horrible. and no, it’s not. it is my face - with and without makeup. and whether i chose to wear it or not is MY AND JUST MY decision. and when i do, i do it for myself - so that i feel good about myself - not for you.
Sadly, this dude seems gay. I say “sadly” because this comment of his about lying conforms to that tired old stereotype of gay men being misogynistic to women — for what purpose — to prove you like men more?
Honey, if women had not been around, a lot more gay men would be dead from HIV/AIDs. Because the early HIV and AIDs activists leaned heavily on the help of feminist women allies who knew how to organize and advocate. You may well owe much of the current social acceptance of some gay identities to these WOMEN activists, who fought for men LIKE YOU during a time when gay men were mostly just considered social garbage. They were worthless, and if they contracted HIV which turned in AIDs and killed them, most people didn’t give a damn and considered that comeuppance for their sinful gay lifestyle. Plenty of people still believe that. But women allies — lesbian, bi, and straight — stood by gay men during that time. (I wish I could say the same for men standing by women, especially with feminist movements.)
Also, did you know that the entire gay rights movement was started by trans WOMEN of color? That’s right. You owe a lot of the political gains for gay men’s rights to WOMEN of color.
And then you have go around and talk trash about women and vomit up sexist garbage? Shame on you. Shame on you that you think that is a mark of gayness or queerness, or anything but being a blatant misogynist. Shame on you if you think that makes you more gay or radical. Because it doesn’t. What’s radical is when men stand up for women and acknowledge them as the necessary leaders and partners they are. You don’t have to be straight or bisexual to appreciate the massive contributions of women to queer culture, and to marginalized cultures. And you don’t have to be straight to love and adore women passionately and respect them as equals and co-workers in creating a better world for everyone.
I ashamed if you think you have a right to claim the identity of “gay”, much less “queer” if you have such low regard for women, all things considered.
It used to be radical to be gay — really radical. These days we use the term queer to distinguish between the type of gay person who just wants to fold into mainstream society and be “accepted”, and the type of LGBT+ person who actually wants to challenge the accepted social order and actually change things. Not just grovel for acceptance and to be mainstreamed into straight culture — change the wide ranging injustices of class, race, sex, gender that impact us all.
Hence, why I call myself a queer. I won’t grovel. I won’t beg for a place at the table, to appear acceptable to misogynistic straight culture and straight men. I try to wear it like a badge of honor, ever day, but I also try to be worthy of that honor, of being radical, of being different, of challenging my culture.
So basically, if you’re just going to regurgitate the same bullshit straight, normative, sexist culture does, then you don’t deserve to call yourself any type of queer, and you don’t deserve to share in the social gains that queer people have fought for since before you were born.
Absolutely yes, yes & yes to the above post.